Thursday, April 16, 2015

Immaturity Game Over

Hello Everyone,
If you are looking for a place to sit back and relax and be yourself you have reached the right destination here.  We are all on a journey.  We all have our own path to walk.  And the kindred spirits will remind you of why you are here
in the first place.

Today I want to talk to you all about how I learned an important lesson from an incident that took place in a Post Office about a year ago.  I was waiting in line to deliver one of the dolls that I sold on my shop when suddenly I suspected someone starring at me.  I turned in the direction that I felt the negative energy and I saw a causian couple whispering to each other and laughing as they looked at me.


I talked to my intuition.  I asked if I should go over to these people and ask the why they are laughing at me.  My intuition guided me to smile at them and pretend not to be affected by their crude and oh so rude behavior.  There attention was no longer on me when I decided not to engage in their game.


Many people create games that they want you to join in on.  Me going over to the couple and yelling at them would put me inside of their game.  Once I would be inside their game I would continue to allow them to feed off of whatever negative feelings I throw out at them.  This was a big,  I mean huge lesson I learned in all of the years of having dreadlocks upon my head.

The Immaturity Game is played by those who are triggered by past events that still haunt them.  For example, someone can bring up a nickname that you were given as a child that has traumatizing events that go with it.  So later on in life when you are called this name you are in the immaturity game caused by a trigger .


Feel free to express who you are and do not play the Immaturity Game.

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Freeform Dreadlocks And Acceptance

A lot of people when they decide to let there hair dread they will look to others on how there own hair should look just as if they were  wearing a new hairstyle. For me it is a journey into discovering who I am. Because no two heads  full of dreads are alike.  Even if you both have the supposed  same ancestry there will be variations in texture.  Lifestyle has  a lot   to  do with it as well. What things you put on your  head.  The list goes on.  Not everyone decides to let there hair dread for mystical,religious,or  spiritual reasons.  Some like to have them as fashion. 

After having dreadlocks for little over 17 yrs I have learned through personal experience that my locks are a part of who I am.  Each lock contains energy.  I worked at an  health food store back in 1999 where one of my coworkers who had dreadlocks told me"You locks are your antennae."  After he said that I came home from working and just as I was stepping outside to go to my backyard I felt an electrical charge hit one of my  dreadlocks.  For all of the debunkers out there it  was not stormy night with lots of lightning striking. It was a normal clear night. 

It seems the longer my dreadlocks get the more attention they  draw.  I don't have perfectly manicured salon locks so people around here get confused. I have long dreads,short dreads,medium length dreads and little tiny baby dreads.  My head is working it all out on  her own and does not need assistance via manipulation and tight hair style causing  extreme damage.


Through the years I have learned to not try and have a goal of having my dreadlocks look like anyone but me.  That is the inner journey that I embarked upon from the moment I decided to surrender to nature and let that energy flow. 

My Dreadlock  journey is not for everyone. I do feel like it is a calling to some degree.  I realized that all of those years of manipulation of my hair to achieve acceptance from peers,family members,and supposed friends was a test.  What did I learn.  I learned that chemicals on scalp can affect the way you see the world.
I learned that   wearing your  hair really tightly on your scalp can suppress and torture your sense of well being.  And I learned to stay away from commercial products.

Some of these companies that are saying that they are African American Hair Care Products are putting petroleum in their hair creams and oils.   And a lot these African American Hair Care Product companies are not run by African Americans.


I have also learned that a lot of people in this world  are trapped in the notion that they can have long  dreadlocks instantly .  Well you can  if you go off and get some dreadlock extensions. If you are called to let your hair lock naturally without any manipulation you will know.  You will,like I had,a resistance to combs,brushes,picks etc.  I went through  stages. And everyone does in her or his own way.

I began to realize through this journey how sensitive I am.  And that I an empath.  I changed the way I  eat and what I eat.  I meditate more and spend more time in nature. I start to see my life's path more clearly and learn how to listen more clearing.  The clear message I receive today in this moment is that in order to get in touch with your higher self you require time to your self away from tvs,radios,cell phones, computers,bossy relatives  etc...
I go outside everyday and bathe in the sunshine,listen to the birds chirping, watch the squirrels do their par cor adventures and connect with what is real.


Warm Regards,
Trina  Sandress


Monday, December 22, 2014

Hello all of you beautiful Freeform Dreadlockers!  I have been making dreadlock beads again. I like to wear them because it gives my crown a bit of art love . Here is a few of the dreadlock beads I have on sale on my etsy shop.    They are made of polymer clay that I sculpt by hand.  I seal them with mod podge to make them water resistant. www.darkmoondoll.etsy.com



And when you become obsessed with having hair all the way down to your feet you don't get a chance to be in the moment of how you are in the present and not the future. Trying to run away from how you look now because you want to look like someone with longer dreadlocks will drive you insane.  Educate yourself about your own hair.  When I say educate yourself I mean really look and feel what your hair is all about by giving your body internally the nutrients it needs to be healthy inside and and out.  I notice that if I don't eat enough fresh fruit and vegetables my hair and skin suffer.  It is my body's way of telling me what I need to do to keep myself healthy.  Your body is always talking to you.  You don't have to be afraid to listen.

Don't listen to  those who think they know all about you and your dreadlocks.  No one knows you better than you.  Number 2 important thing I learned about having dreadlocks upon my head for all of these years is that your dreadlocks will never turn out how you expect them to when you are letting them grow without separation,manipulation . They will come out uniquely shaped to fit your personality.  So I give my dreadlocks love.  If I am working with paint or sealant I put my dreadlocks up in a loose fitting hat or in a loose bun so that I don't get them dirty. I listen to clues of how and what I can do to care for them.


Through listening to my locks I listen to my mind,body and soul.  I am not a slave to what society tries to make me into. 

Connecting with the heart is where it started for me.  When I started meditating whenever I didn't like how I looked on the outside I began to silence the chatter of negativity and tune into my inner wisdom which I know everyone has if they take the time to be alone preferably in nature to commune and connect  with mother nature and all that is loving and  caring to the heart and soul.


Have respect for yourself and stick up for yourself when you have been mistreated and wronged.  I was laughed at while shopping in my local grocery store.  I heard this man and this woman chanting "Nappy head, nappy head,nappy head.  They were looking at me and smiling and laughing.  I went up to them and said"I love my hair.  This is me."  They tried to play it off as if it was a joke.  I by no means believe that it was innocent play.  It's not innocent when you make fun of someone just because they look different than you.


Be you ,love and respect yourself and don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not be.



Thursday, September 18, 2014

This year marks 17yrs of having dreadlocks upon my head.  I still love them dearly and feel more and more free everyday. It is who I am .  I have dealt with continued negativity yet I carry on.  Those people who are quick to judge are those who have never stepped a foot in my shoes ever and they never will.

When I started this journey I felt a weight was lifted. That the time had finally come to where I am on the path to knowing who I am and where I came from.  It such a deep journey.  Most may say why is it so deep.  And to answer their question I would have to say that each time that I look in the mirror from the day that I embarked upon this journey of having dreads on my head til now I have been faced with pure honesty and truth.

I was born with this hair coming out of my scalp. It grows naturally without any manipulation. Surrendering and letting go was the key for me. Knowing that Mother Nature knows what is best. Looking to people who know nothing about you or your hair for advice will get you no where.  I learned to find what is right for me through trial and error and not relying on commercialism to make my decisions for me.


So you see it is very deep.  My dreadlocks have also inspired my art creations.  I have been making hand sculpted dreadlock beads from polymer clay.  My true love and passion has been creating Hand Embroidered Fabric Beads.  Which I have on sale on my etsy shop.  A lot of them I made especially for dreadlocks.  Here is some photographs of some of these creations.a

I hope you all are enjoying the remains of Summer 2014 .  And let your world be filled with love and joy. Warm Regards, Trina Sandress







You find these creations and more at my etsy shop www.darkmoondoll.etsy.com Thank you

Thursday, April 10, 2014

You can dye your hair with spices and herbs that you find out in your garden or in your cupboard. I tried this natural dye because I was using these spices to dyes some fabrics.  The rosemary rinse I have been doing all of these years have given my Freeform Dreadlocks red tint to them and the color get deeper each year.   The paprika,tumeric and cinnamon gave a bit of vibrancy when looking at my dreads through the sun.

Natural hair dyes are the way for me.  I spent countless years frying the crap out of my hair.  After about 7yrs of not using chemical dyes my dreads are happier and healthier than they have ever been.
Thank you all for your support and loving words.

Regards,
Trina Sandress